Revenge in marriage; a catalyst for loss of trust or divorce

Plan B Fm’s family, relationship, and lifestyle show dubbed NYANSAPO FIE, hosted by Dr. Michael Asenso deliberated on the topic “Revenge in Marriage”

Revenge might seem logical even inevitable reaction. You might be thinking that it will also provide great relief from the pain that you are feeling or some sort of satisfaction but most of the time leads to a loss of trust in your partner or divorce.

Madam Mary Bright (Aunty Mary) said sadly, evidence shows that people who seek revenge instead of forgiving or letting go, tend to feel worse in the long run.

“You are much better off channeling your energy into moving forward positively with your life, but if you consider yourself to be a decent human being, causing someone else distress or pain (whether you think they are deserving of it or not) might not put the smile on your face you were hoping for, it might make you feel worse; you might feel guilty, upset, regretful and these kinds of feelings tend to linger and weigh heavy on your conscience” she said

She added that while you might feel hurt or betrayed right now, eventually you will be able to put those feelings behind you, but if you burden your conscience with guilt, you are more likely to ruminate over your actions, this makes moving on much harder and only puts your life on hold.

Think about the repercussions of your actions,  you might end up in trouble with your partner’s seeking revenge, you might even put yourself in harm, It is far better to save yourself from the possibility of further trauma, she added

Rev. Roger Carl Parkins also said seeking revenge isn’t going to undo the actions of the person who has wronged you, so do the right thing, be the bigger person, you will be glad you did so in the long run, and make sure you don’t get caught in a loop, it will only cause you further pain and hurt.

Try and leave negativity and people who bring you down in the past. They are not worth your time and energy.

Rev. Parkins then advised couples to let of everything when their partners hurt them and reconcile with their partners and live in harmony.